Let me start with a quote " Trust can take years to build, and only a second to break ." Isn't it absolutely true ? Many of us know what it feels like to trust someone only to find out later ; they simply weren't to be trusted . At times there are telltale signs that the person you are involved with may have issues . Issues such as : an inability to be totally honest . I love those half truths ; is it a lie or is it the truth ? Oh , it's both ! Or perhaps they're sneaky and secretive . You may feel like you are always trying to get the 'real' truth out of them . You may have a gnawing feeling that things just don't seem to be right . On the other hand , betrayal may blindside you . It may rock your world to the point that you are in disbelief . Even your friends and family are in shock . But , sadly it does happen . Typically this perpetrator is the devil in sheep's clothes . You don't see it coming and you are totally blown away when it does . There is nothing quite like begin betrayed by someone you love . Betrayal is one of the most difficult situations to deal with , not only in your personal relationship ; but in life in general . Betrayal comes chock full of a gamut of emotions . The initial hurt can be overwhelming . It is not until you really begin to accept the reality of the situation that you begin to heal . The most important factor is to understand that this is not a reflection on you . Some people may take it personally ; as if there is something wrong with them that would make this person be so heartless . Bitterness and anger are some of the effects of betrayal . But , it's how we handle this bitterness that impacts us the most . If you don't let go of it ; the only person it hurts is yourself . If you hold onto it ; you hold onto someone that doesn't deserve another second of your precious time . It's in grasping the concept ; that you really don't want to be with someone who could hurt you like this ; is the time you will begin to let go and move on . The reality is : you need to take a long hard look at this person who says they love you and decide if they are worthy of "your" love . On the other hand , you may choose to give this person another chance . Hopefully , it will be for a chance to make things right ; this takes a very serious commitment by both partners . Just keep in mind that you may possibly be giving them a chance to betray you again . So , when betrayal enters your world , know this : You are now going to have to make a decision as to whether or not you want to remain in a relationship with someone you can't trust . Once the trust in a relationship is broken , you can be certain that it's a tough road to get it back . This is a time where you have to decide to continue on and work through this obstacle course or cut your losses and move on . Everyone's circumstances are different but the emotions are the same . Life can sometimes deal us a bad hand of cards . So when you are stinging from the betrayal of someone you've trusted : just remember one thing : You have to know when to hold them and when to fold them . It's your choice :)
